If you are a connoisseur of well-crafted engaging prose look no further. I’m so glad Ashok Rajamani contacted me for an author interview, and once you read his responses regarding his memoir and writing life, I’m sure you’ll be drawn to his work as well.
1. Please provide a brief synopsis of your book.
The Day My Brain Exploded is a memoir that was published by Algonquin Books in 2013
After a full-throttle brain bleed at the age of twenty-five, Ashok Rajamani, a first-generation Indian American, had to relearn everything: how to eat, how to walk and to speak, even things as basic as his sexual orientation. With humor and insight, he describes the events of that day (his brain exploded just before his brother’s wedding!), as well as the long, difficult recovery period. In the process, he introduces readers to his family—his principal support group, as well as a constant source of frustration and amazement. Irreverent, coruscating, angry, at times shocking, but always revelatory, his memoir takes the reader into unfamiliar territory, much like the experience Alice had when she fell down the rabbit hole.
More than a decade later he has finally reestablished a productive artistic life for himself, still dealing with the effects of his injury—life-long half-blindness and epilepsy— but forging ahead as a survivor dedicated to helping others who have suffered a similar catastrophe.
2. Tell us a little bit about what motivates or inspires your writing.
One of my favorite sayings is “Nothing is Shocking; everything is shocking.” This has definitely been the case in my life, and I suppose this is the anthem behind my writings. As the common phrase goes, we “expect the unexpected” in our lives. However, we are still astounded by what the unexpected may bring. I am inspired by this consistent opposition – and this is why I write. I want to create worlds which might be amazingly unfamiliar but are nonetheless entirely familiar. After all, this is the basis of my memoir “The Day My Brain Exploded.” It is a personal story of a journey that few endure – losing pieces of your brain from a time-bomb inside your cranium is not quite common. But the struggle for survival IS. While readers may (or may not) find my life experience different than theirs, they will relate to the desire to survive, and the desire to conquer challenges which are bigger than they are.
3. It’s hard to pick just one, but what do you consider your favorite novel and why?
Before I mention the name of the best book ever, I have to state there is not just one writer who inspires me. There are many, all of whom have been able to mix angst with humor. My memoir never gets too mawkish; laughter is stronger than sorrow. Tears of joy carry more power than tears of pain, so I adore poets, novelists, and memoirists who understand the importance of incorporating comedy into drama. Faves include the following writers: David Sedaris, Augusten Burroughs, Louis Sachar, T.S. Eliot, Vladimir Nabokov, and Herodotus. On a grander scale, you can’t beat the fictional or non-fictional Vyasa, the mythical wordsmith credited for writing the greatest poem ever made: The Mahabharata.
That said, my all-time favorite novel is a masterpiece which conflates politics, family, religion, love, and revolution into one symphonic eruption: Geek Love by Katherine Dunn. The book is a sprawling, epic, complicated, and ultimately triumphant tale of a carnival-freak family’s odyssey, in which birth defects are not defects, but are, instead, delicious virtues.
I was a Brown Hindu scrawny redneck geek from an evangelical corn-fed cornfield in small-town Illinois. There was nothing inconspicuous about me. So, although technically I was one of the Children of the Corn, I looked more like one of the Children of the Curry. I have always felt segregated from the “norm, ” and have thus always been drawn to tales of outcasts, freaks, oddities, and outsiders. I suppose my severe post-hemorrhage brain damage, bisected blindness, seizure disorder, distorted hearing, transient amnesia, backward-language speech comprehension, and metal in my skull don’t help my possibility of being normal either. For these reasons alone, Geek Love rocks my world.
4. What is the name of your blog and what can readers expect to find there?
My official site Ashok Rajamani houses my blog, which provides book news, events, and more. It also lets you know more about me: In addition to being a writer, I’m also a poet, artist, former host of brain injury radio, and brain injury awareness advocate. So folks can discover more of my prose, poetry, radio shows, gallery of my art, and information on brain injury, blindness, as well all the other dysmorphic perversities that can happen within one’s skull. My writings, which are featured in the site, have appeared in dozens of publications such as The Atlantic and Pulp Metal Magazine.
5. Are you traditionally published or self-published?
I am traditionally published by Algonquin Books, but I didn’t use a literary agent. I sold it myself. To my fellow writers: trust me, you don’t need an agent to get your book out into the world – even in traditional publishing. No matter what you’ve been told. Don’t let rejections from literary agents get you down. Sometimes it seems that they like to reject writers just for the sake of it – which does nothing but make the writer feel bad, and even worse, make the writer give up.
Stay true to your vision. Don’t let agents shove you into self-defeat.
Realize you can do this. Realize, at a certain point, nobody can sell your book as well as you can. Realize you can contact publishers all by yourself. Get lists of publishers and editors who you think would be appropriate for your book – and go for it.
I repeat: you don’t need an agent. This might sound blasphemous, but it’s the truth.
6. Can you offer one or two helpful tips for fellow writers when it comes to marketing and publicity?
This is the number one tip, which I tell to every writer out there: BE FEARLESS.
Find names of producers, journalists, reporters, celebrities. Use Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, or any social media if need be. When you get their names, email them the best pitch letters you possibly can. Send books, reviews, and even merchandise if you have any. The main goal is to get your book into their hands. If it’s good enough, they’ll come-a-knocking. And word will spread. And you will become known. Once again , you can do this yourself, without any publicist or marketing maven. Be fearless.
7. Describe your writing background.
I received my Journalism degree, magna cum laude, from New York University. There were two routes that the students could take, either straight news reporting or cultural criticism with feature writing. We were all forced to take classes in mandatory news reporting. It was then that I realized I was no reporter. We had to write structurally and clinically, with no creativity or swirls or twists or analysis involved. So I failed miserably as a newspaper guy. If an assignment was to write about a police drug bust on some street corner, I would end up writing about why the cop wanted to do the drug bust in the first place. That’s when I learned that was not the type of journalist I was meant to be. When I graduated, I stayed in the world of journalism and media, working in publicity, writing press releases and doing work like that. Never in my life did I think I would write books, let alone a memoir.
Then my brain exploded.
And I survived. I knew I had to do something with this gift of living after dying, and so I decided to write about my journey past death. I knew I needed to write about an experience that needed to be revealed. Not enough brain injury survivors have the full capacity to document their journeys. But I could still function at a level which allowed me to do so. So I had a duty to write this book.
8. What does your drafting and/or editing process entail?
My writing activity, when it concerns my books, is a very solitary affair. I do have a small writers group (4 members) where we primarily do prompts and critique weekly. The group is delightful for keeping a writing discipline and helping finesse my skills. They help me edit my work. I will admit that one thing helps me out as I write: the Game Show Network! I constantly have that playing in the background as I write. Old reruns – especially old Jeopardy episodes – get the juices flowing. I dig Trebek’s old-school mustache. I’m still angry that he shaved it off. I also enjoy Match Game 1974. For some reason, the voice of Charles Nelson Reilly soothes me.
9. What future projects can we look forward to?
My follow-up to The Day My Brain Exploded is a novel entitled If These Saris Could Talk, and it is a fun, frothy semi-true collection of hidden stories about the crazy, somewhat deranged, unconventional, hysterical, fierce women in my family – both in India and America. And all these secrets are divulged by a woman who could only be described as a psychotic sienna Auntie Mame. The book continues in the same vein of edgy, dark comedy presented in my memoir – although this time, nobody has a brain hemorrhage.
Milf-Lit at its finest. It should be coming out sometime next year.
10. Is there anything else you want your potential readers to know?
The book is my memoir, so it pretty much tells everything and more — including some risque stuff. Let’s just say orgasms are involved. But that’s all I’ll disclose.
Have to leave some surprises for those who don’t know yet.
You can connect with Ashok Rajamani via his website. The Day My Brain Exploded is available via Amazon and other book retailers.
Author photo courtesy of Joyce Anderson. Book cover courtesy of Algonquin Books. Book signing in NYC courtesy of Timothy Bellavia
Please share responsibly. Jeri Walker, 2013.
Wow! Amazing story and great interview! I am going to download the book now and so interesting that he thinks an agent isn’t necessary. I have immense respect for Algonquin Books but would be curious as to how he handles rights…foreign or film? And I love the premise for his new novel too! Glad you introduced me to him:) Thanks!
TERRIFIC INTERVIEW. very insightful and inspiring.
i read his book, it was magnificent! check out his site and listen to his radio shows too! this guy is a real talent to watch.
love his insight about literary agents. so many of us feel dejected about agent rejections. nice to know its possible to write a book, and get it traditionally-published – from an a-list publisher, all it on our own.
Great interview, Jeri! Thanks to Ashok Rajamani for sharing his story with the world. I wish him the best.
I can’t remember how long ago I read it or who even said it, but it was said once that you only need an agent when you are making enough money to steal. Writers like Mr. Rajamani are proving this is true today.
I have trouble focusing with visual stimulation while writing, but I can relate to his need for certain sounds. Some of my craziest writing has come from listening to bands you would never expect.
saw this link on sunita’s facebook. this is a fantastic interview, will be getting ashok’s book right away
I really like your tip about being fearless… it’s amazing what kind of doors open when you start doing things like reaching out to the right people.
Oh my gosh what an absolutely awesome interview, Jeri!!! To Ashok – I loved your answers to #’s 5 & 6 in my hopes to publish a book someday. I’m saving this as an inspirational reminder on so many different levels. I’m thrilled for your fantastic success story and wishes and prayers to you always that your beautiful path continues to expand and grow. Btw…huge fan of the old Jeopardy and Match Game shows here. Great flashback memory 🙂
Great interview that made me chuckle. There’s possibly no better way to cap off a paragraph than with, “And then my brain exploded.” I’m just going to give up trying right now. Both the memoir and the forthcoming book sound very interesting and I’m going from here straight to Goodreads to add the memoir to my list.
Fascinating interview with a fascinating person. Inspiring.
I just want to thank Ashok for stopping by today. It seems like every other author interview I post becomes my new favorite, but this one may remain tops on my list for quite awhile. It’s the type of interview that definitely makes me want to see what else the author is up to.
So amazing of him to overcome his brain injury and then go on to do so much. It just goes to show even the worst things that happen to us might of happened for a reason.
awesome blog! (thanks sunita for bringing it to my attention).
this is probably one of the best author interviews i have read recently. great questions, BRILLIANT answers. i was left feeling inspired, educated, and motivated. he looks like a really amazing fellow — to have severe brain damage and write such an eloquent memoir is unbelievable. like others have stated, i love what he says about agents (what an irritating bunch of characters they are lol). but i liked his comments on the game show network even more! go charles nelson reilly! 🙂 terrific interview jeri.
Mr. Rajamani is a maverick. He looks adversity in the eyes and says, ” uh huh”. He has risen above his AVM, made the best of it and advocates for other brain injured. This is a great interview Jeri. Bravo to Ashok and his must read to believe memoir – The Day My Brain Exploded.
Wow. I’m intrigued and inspired by Ashok’s story, and the way he describes his next novel sounds hilarious. Great interview!
What a fabulous interview! It’s unfortunate that it often takes a tragedy for us to realize we need to take immediate action and share our stories. (I can relate to this; my emergency appendectomy led me to my son, to buying a laptop, and to my writing pursuits!)
I particularly like the advice about not needing an agent. 🙂
Life after death. Sounds familiar… I did that too!
I think it is obvious that I would totally relate to Ashok. How amazing that he can write about coming back from death and with a sense of humour. The book sounds great as does the next one coming.
Wow, what an interesting author. Talk about taking the world by the horns no matter it throws at you. Very inspiring and the humor doesn’t hurt either.
FABULOUS, FABULOUS INTERVIEW. what a great new talent ashok is. i read the memoir. so well-written, dazzling and dynamic. and so funny to boot. and yes, the orgasm scene is a killer!
i forgot to mention – he’s a hottie. nice pic, but i met him in real life. sexy guy. lol